What would you say to such a person?
In the past I would offer solutions. I would say read The Magic of
Believingby Claude Bristol. Watch the movie The Secretseven times.
Create a scenario of how you want life to be.Take time every day to
meditate.Work on self-sabotage issues.
But that’s the frontal approach to change. I’ve learned—and Dr.
Hew Len will attest—that that approach rarely works.
So what’s left?
How do you or me or anyone help someone stuck and in pain?
According to ho’oponopono, the only way is by cleaning myself.
People who come before me—including the one who wrote me—
are sharing a program with me. They caught it like a virus of the
mind. They aren’t to blame. They feel trapped or cornered. I can
throw them a rope, but more often than not, they won’t use it, or
they’ll use it to hang themselves.
So what do you do?
All I can do is clean me. As I clean me, they get cleaned. As we
clean the programs we share, they get lifted from all humankind.This is
all I do these days. It’s what Dr. Hew Len first told me he did, on that
first phone call we had so long ago:“All I do is clean, clean, clean.”
All I do is say, “I love you,” “I’m sorry,” “Please forgive me,” and
“Thank you.”The rest is up to Divinity. I don’t think this is heartless
but instead the most heartfelt thing I can do. And it’s what I’m doing
right now, even as I write these words.
Finally, consider this spiritual punchline:
Since the story of this person who wrote me is now part of your
experience, that means it is up for you to heal, as well.After all, if you
create your own reality, then you had to create thissituation, too, as it
is now part of your reality. I suggest you use the “I love you” state-
ments to heal this.
As you heal yourself, the person who wrote me, and everyone
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