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(Luke 1:26-38). She intercedes on behalf of supplicants with love,
compassion, and understanding.

In Judaism, the Conservative and Reform movements have
rewritten prayer books to emphasize the female in the sacred. The
importance of the matriarchs is recognized, as well as the Shechinah,
the female qualities of God: forgiveness, compassion, understanding,
and love.
True, not all marriages have become more egalitarian. Many
men are still disengaged from family life. Yet a growing number are
seeking guidance in coping with the cultural change. Witness the
growing popularity of organized men's movements such as the
Promise Keepers, the Robert Ely mythopoetic movement, the Million
Man March, and the men's rights movement. People are now
marching on Washington not to demand political change but to make
new vows about their role in families. Whatever your opinion of each
of these groups, their very existence is a symptom of the seismic shift
in social relations that has left many men lost and befuddled.
The challenge for each man is to decide how to deal with this
great transformation. Our research clearly indicates that the only
effective approach is to embrace the change rather than to react with
anger and hostility. Time and again we can separate the happy from
the unstable couples based on whether the husband is willing to
accept influence from his wife.


Learn to yield

Perhaps the fundamental difference between these two kinds of
husbands is that the "new" husband has learned that often in life he
needs to yield in order to win. When you drive through any modern
city, you encounter frustrating bottlenecks and unexpected
barricades that block your normal and rightful passage. You can take
one of two approaches to these impossible situations. One is to stop,

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