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  1. Solvable. Helena and Jonathan can resolve this issue in a number
    of ways. Perhaps they could switch off weekly between dancing class
    and Helena's girls' night out. Or maybe her friends would be willing
    to switch the night. Or Jonathan could find another dancing class on
    another night or on the weekend. Or one of them could simply agree
    not to push it.

  2. Solvable. Roger just needs to spend more time with his son so he
    can get up to speed on his care. And Penny needs to back off and let
    Roger approach baby care his way. Because this issue isn't related to
    deep-seated needs either of them has, it can be readily solved
    through compromise.

  3. Perpetual. This problem probably started out as a situational one
    about housecleaning and organization. Perhaps Jim and Thea have
    different tolerance levels for clutter, dirt, and how planned out one's
    life should be. But because they haven't found a compromise position
    about running their house, they have continued to argue about these
    differences. Thea has come to feel her husband doesn't value or
    respect her role, while he feels that she's not holding up her end of
    the marriage by keeping the household well organized.
    The argument has become about their mutual resentment rather than
    about housekeeping.

  4. Perpetual. Brian and Allyssa have different emotional styles. He
    tends to be volatile, meaning that he's very passionate and "out there"
    with his emotions. Allyssa prefers to discuss issues quietly and
    rationally. When Brian starts yelling at her, she feels overwhelmed
    and quickly becomes flooded. Since emotional style is part of one's
    personality neither of them is likely to change. But by becoming
    aware of and respecting each other's emotional style, they can find an
    approach to conflict resolution they are both comfortable with.

  5. Perpetual. At the core Irene and Kurt have different emotional
    needs. The huge change in their marriage that was created by their
    child's birth has thrown what they need from each other out of sync.

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