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God's love brought her deep comfort. Katherine started crying as she
remembered those hard times and the solace she found in religion.
Jeff explained that he had been an agnostic his entire life. In
contrast to Katherine's dysfunction al family, his was very strong and
loving. When he went through hard times, he always turned to his
parents. He wanted his child to feel the same trust in him and
Katherine. He feared that if their son was "indoctrinated" into the
Church, this would interfere with that bond; the child would be
trained to turn to God instead of his parents.
Jeff and Katherine had opposing dreams: He envisioned them
as a happy family that would supply all the love and support their
children needed. He saw religion as a threat to their deep connection.
Katherine viewed religion as a vital support system that she wanted
to ensure was there for her children.
Once these dreams were discussed openly, the mood in the
room changed dramatically. Jeff told Katherine that he loved her. It
finally sank in to him that her desire to baptize their baby came out of
her deep love for their child--for his child. He realized it made
"perfect sense" that out of this love she would want to protect the
baby from ever feeling the pain she had experienced. This helped him
reconnect with his own deep feelings for Katherine, which had gotten
buried under all of the bitterness and anger.
In the first session no emotion had passed between the couple.
But this time you could see the compassion on Jeff's face as he
listened to his wife recount her childhood. When she cried, he
handed her tissues and encouraged her to keep talking. Katherine
listened just as intently to his side of the story.
Now that the real issues were out in the open, they were able to
talk about how they could raise their son in a way that honored both
their visions. Jeff told her he wouldn't oppose the baptism. He
himself would always be agnostic, but it was okay with him if the
child received rudimentary training in Catholicism. However, he still
opposed intensive religious study, because he feared the Church
might impose ideas on the child. Katherine was able to accept this
compromise.