anyone else there, had eyes only for me, and was totally satisfied
spending hours in rapt conversation and dancing with just me.Couple 4
Wife: I was sexually mistreated long ago. I had no control over this, and it
was quite horrible, but it did happen. I know my partner is not to blame
for many of the feelings 1 now have. But I feel that sex can be okay only
if it is on my terms. In my marriage there has been a lot of healing and
gentleness, but I probably will never get over these feelings of having
gone through a real trauma. My dream is to have sexual closeness on
my terms only.
Husband: My dream is to have my partner initiate sexual encounters with
me and somehow be "swept away" by passion, I guess to really be
totally attracted to me. I know I am not especially much to look at, but
on some days 1 am not too bad. 1 periodically want my partner to feel
that I am simply irresistible.
Couple 5
Wife: Life is too short to just save for the future all the time. I know that a
certain amount of that is necessary, but I want to have some sense that
I am not living just for tomorrow. I don't want to feel that life is
passing me by. And that's what 1 often feel, that I am not special
enough to "waste" money on. I want to feel special and very alive.
Where this comes from is, I suppose, always having to scrimp when I
was poor. But now I make a good income, and I don't have to live like
that anymore.
Husband: I want to enjoy life, but within limits. To me the problem with
the world is greed. People never seem to be able to have enough "stuff"
or get enough money. Just look at Americans on vacation, with all their
things, campers, motorcycles, boats, cars. I don't want to want things.
I want to be satisfied with just a small amount of things and a small
amount of money. I honestly don't need very much to be happy. So I see
myself as kind of like a monk, who has a purpose in life, and I do have
that. A monk can be satisfied with very little, contented, counting all