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the blessings in life, and there are so many. So I believe in saving and

spending very little. To me that's how one should lead a moral life.

Where does this come from? I think it comes from my father, who also

was very frugal. Thanks to him our family always did well, and when

he died, my mom was well provided for. I respect what he accomplished.

Couple 6

Wife : It took. me a great deal of effort to get away from a very dysfunction
al family. My parents were very cold and distant. My sister wound up
in a mental hospital, and my brother became a drug addict. I was the
only one who escaped. I escaped by becoming very distant from my
family and becoming very close to my friends. Friendships have always
meant a lot to me and continue to be very important. But I am wary of
being close to my husband's family. I see a lot of dysfunction al
patterns, and they scare me. My dream is for us to form our own family
traditions and maintain our own independence.
Husband : To me a feeling of an extended family has always been very
important. I can recall many a Sunday when my mother would have
twenty or thirty family members visit. The coffee and pastries would
keep coming all afternoon, and there would be lots of good stories, and
card playing, and lots of laughter. Then there would be great food for
dinner. Even during the hard times, my mother was always able to
stretch the soup and it stayed thick and hearty. My dream is to have
this family feeling of community, closeness, and great comfort in my
own family.

Step 2: work on a gridlocked marital issue

Now that you have had some practice uncovering dreams, try it
with your own marriage. Choose a particular gridlocked conflict to
work on. Then write an explanation of your position. Don't criticize
or blame your spouse. Use the statements made by the couples above