- We have similar values about the meaning of family. T F
- We have similar views about the role of sex in our lives. T F
- We have similar views about the role of love and affection in our
lives.TF - We have similar values about the meaning of being married. T F
- We have similar values about the importance and meaning of money in
our lives. T F - We have similar values about the importance of education in our
lives.TF - We have similar values about the importance of fun and play in our
lives. T F - We have similar values about the significance of adventure. T F
- We have similar values about trust. T F
- We have similar values about personal freedom. T F
- We have similar values about autonomy and independence. T F
- We have similar values about sharing power in our marriage. T F
- We have similar values about being interdependent, being a "we." T F
- We have similar values about the meaning of having possessions, of
owning things (like cars, nice clothes, books, music, a house, and land).
T F - We have similar values about the meaning of nature and of our
relationship to the seasons. T F
49.We are both sentimental and tend to reminisce about things in our past
T F - We have similar views about what we want in retirement and old age.
T F
Scoring: Give yourself one point for each "true" answer. If you score
below three, your marriage could stand some improvement in this area.
Be sure to work together on Exercise 4, which follows this questionnaire.
The exercises below are really just a list of questions for you
both to answer and discuss. They are divided into the four categories
that usually form the bases of shared meaning between husband and
wife: rituals, roles, goals, and symbols. These questionnaires are not
designed to be completed in an evening or even a month.