we might attribute them to chance. The fact is, things happen, and we
may never know the reason—if there even is a reason in many cases.
Though we may not be able to say why things happen, there are aspects
we can address that are more personal and, ultimately, more relevant.
For instance, we might ask, “How can this circumstance I am now in
foster my growth? What am I resisting? What do I need to surrender to
in order to grow? What purpose does this upheaval in my life serve for
myself and others?” Such questions have the power to transform a “bad”
event into a growth-inducing experience, whereby we mine emotional
gold from what seems so negative. Just the asking of these types of
questions has the potential to shift us from blame to ownership and
authorship. Such questions empower us to transcend a sense that life has
victimized us.
The choice of question differentiates a victim from a survivor. The
victim whines, “Why did life give me this struggle?” The survivor asks,
“How can I use this struggle for higher evolvement?” It’s a matter of not
allowing our identity to be defined by the events in our life. Instead, we
understand that it’s how we either respond creatively or react negatively
that defines our fate.YOU CAN BREAK FREE OF YOUR
UNCONSCIOUSNESS
There is a helpful technique for watching our thoughts and emotions.
Writing in a journal can assist us in becoming aware of what’s going on
inside us, and how we ascribe unwarranted interpretations to things,
because it enables us to create a little distance between our inner being