The Conscious Parent

The child and parent infuse each other, rhythmically synchronizing their
body and mind to the other. The child’s breath, cries, and gaze merge
with the parent’s original biological and psychological signature,
creating a new template. The parent’s mindset, including fantasies, fears,
inhibitions, and courage, are registered in the infant’s body at a cellular
level. Everything is stored, enriching the blood, making the skin
smoother, strengthening the muscles.
The way a child’s parents burst into laughter or smile only
hesitatingly, welcome the rain on their face or run for cover, embrace
their fears or cower in shame, invite challenges or succumb to doubt,
panic or calmly soothe their infant when it cries—all of this is noted by
the infant, who is soaking it in. This is where the bricks and mortar of the
infant’s sense of self are laid, and where the parent first forms its
identity as a caregiver and nurturer.
Infancy is about psychological security and physical comfort. The
child learns the first vowels of its spiritual language and inscribes the
first imprint of its spiritual signature. How its parents or early caregivers
respond to its mainly physical needs and create a sense of oneness sets
the stage for all later parent-child dynamics. Not yet possessing a clear
sense of what its physical boundaries are, the infant needs to be kept
close to its parents’ or caregivers bodies in order for it to feel secure and
protected. In this way it learns to trust its external world and develops a
sense of security.
Through give and take, child and parent learn how to be in a symbiotic
union, each contributing to the other’s growth. Although it appears the
relationship is mostly one-way, with the parent serving the infant, it’s