of “badness” onto their own children or onto their spouse, casting them
in the role of the “evil one.” If they are acutely sensitive to their own
rebellion, they may be ever-vigilant of signs of rebellion in their
children, which causes them to become either too permissive or hyper-
controlling. Such parents don’t realize that both approaches result in the
creation of a rebel.YOUR BROKENNESS DOESN’T REFLECT YOUR TRUE
BEING
None of your pain or brokenness, whatever particular form it may take, is
who you really are. None of it ever touches your essential being. For this
reason, whatever may have happened to you in the past doesn’t have to
define you today.
Despite all the pain of life, your true being, with its inherently loving
joyfulness, never goes away, though it fails to develop and consequently
becomes layered over and lost from your view. What better place to
uncover your essential being and integrate the unintegrated aspects of
your psyche than within the parent-child relationship? In so doing, you
benefit not only your children but also yourself.
Few of us are blessed to have been raised by parents who are in touch
with their inner joy. Those children who are so blessed grow up with a
lightness of spirit and an intuitive trust that life is good and wise. They
know that life isn’t to be feared, but embraced. These children watch
their parents harness a connection within themselves that transcends the
physical, and in this way learn to harness their own unique connection to
their source.