already in place within their own being. You teach them to experience
life for the sake of the experience, nothing more and nothing less. This is
how to raise children with courage and resilience.
In other words, your duty as a parent is to mirror your children’s
inherent wholeness, out of which they will manifest who they are
becoming. By mirroring their wholeness, you help them realize that who
they are here and now is already their greatest achievement.HONOR WHO YOUR CHILD IS
As parents, we can so easily superimpose on a child expectations that
have nothing to do with who the child is. Because these expectations
emanate from our own conditioning, we often don’t even know we hold
such expectations. Nevertheless, these expectations and demands fail to
honor what is.
If we knew how to honor our own life and feelings just as they are, we
would automatically honor those of our children, who need to be given
opportunity after opportunity to dazzle with their natural state of being.
Instead, we tend to put so much pressure on them that they feel unable to
match up to our expectations. In this way, rather than creating
opportunities for them to shine, we set them up for failure. If we are
preoccupied with becoming a “success,” the state of our finances, and
our achievements, we automatically communicate this stressful, anxious
way of approaching life to our children. We push them as if they were
extensions of our own desperate ego, all the while telling ourselves we
are pushing them “for their own good,” so they will have a better future.
More and more of us enroll our children in academic enrichment