The Conscious Parent

after game. In this way, we create the space for quiet observation.
When we are in a state of constant distraction with activity, our inner
eye is unable to observe our inner being. The ability to observe can only
be developed through quiet moments sitting with ourselves. This doesn’t
mean we create so many moments of solitude that we stop engaging with
our children. Rather, we are talking about becoming aware that our
children only thrive if there’s a balance of doing and non-doing, of
activity and non-activity, of engagement and disengagement.
Moments of solitude and stillness aren’t empty moments, although
they may feel like it initially. They are moments of fullness, in which we
experience the presence of our being. Such moments give rise to
opportunities for contemplation and reflection. The conscious parent
isn’t checked out during these periods, but is tuned into their children’s
natural state of being.
I recently began teaching my daughter how to meditate. Eight is a
good age for a child to begin developing the art of deepening their
consciousness, though this will vary based on the interests and abilities
of a particular child. My daughter showed an interest, so I introduced her
to the practice. We make it a family activity once a week, typically on
weekends, with my husband, daughter, and I sitting together for ten
minutes during which we enter into stillness.
We first close our eyes and adjust to the sensation of darkness. After a
few moments, I begin speaking, which I do at times during the
meditation so that my daughter can learn the technique by leaning on my
voice. I guide her attention to her breath as it rises and falls in her chest.
Although conscious breathing generally entails paying attention to the