The Conscious Parent

We use what we have before us to introduce a shift in perspective in both
ourselves and our children. In this way, the humblest of situations
become inspiring portals for transformation. Again and again, you will
see this in action in the lives of individuals I will talk about as we
proceed.
Because as parents we desperately want our children’s behavior to be
“fixed” right now, without having to go through the difficult process of
having to change ourselves first, it needs to be emphasized that the
conscious approach to parenting won’t change a family overnight. This
book isn’t a “how to” manual because such manuals miss the point of the
present moment nature of conscious parenting. What I want to make
clear is that the how to is built into each situation as it arises, not found
in a set of instructions. This book is about how to use the parenting
relationship to become conscious, so that we can spot what’s required in
our children’s lives in the moment an issue arises. Through the
accumulation of many a conscious moment over time, an aware family
dynamic emerges, which radically alters the playing field from what
happens in many families. For this aware dynamic to become a reality
requires patience.
Neither is the goal to change a particular behavior. Our concern isn’t
with “how to put my child to sleep” or “how to get my child to eat.” The
principal task is to put spiritual foundations under both our child’s life
and our own. This triggers a shift in the elemental way in which we
relate to our children, with the result that their behavior automatically
falls in line as they become aware of, and true to, who they really are.
Behavioral changes are an outgrowth of a shift in the relationship.