I accept my ego
I accept my yearning for consciousness (even though I often sabotage
myself when I am about to enter this state).When we are unable to accept our children, it’s because they open up
old wounds in us, threatening some ego-attachment we are still holding
onto. Unless we address why we can’t embrace our children for precisely
who they are, we will forever either seek to mold, control, and dominate
them—or we will allow ourselves to be dominated by them.
It’s essential to realize that any barrier we experience when it comes to
fully accepting our children originates in our own past conditioning. A
parent who is unable to accept their own being in all its glory will never
be able to accept their children. Acceptance of our children goes hand-in-
hand with an acceptance of ourselves. Only to the degree that we honor
ourselves will we honor our children.
If we ourselves have somewhat of a victim mentality, we are likely to
tell ourselves, “I accept my child is, and will always be, defiant.” This
isn’t acceptance but resignation. Conversely, to have a victor mentality
and tell ourselves, “I accept my child is a genius,” isn’t acceptance but
grandiosity.
When we mold our children to meet our expectations, we resist who
they are, which is to sow the seeds of dysfunction. In contrast, to accept
our children for who they are at any given moment brings a feeling of
release and inner spaciousness. No longer defining ourselves by our need
for control, we enter into kinship. Beginning from where our children