The Conscious Parent

are, not from a place in our imagination, we are positioned to help them
shape themselves in line with who they find themselves to be in their
essence.
When I speak of who our children “find themselves to be,” it’s
important to recognize that this is a fluid state. We forget that our
children aren’t fixed entities, but ever-evolving beings who are
constantly transforming themselves. If we are attached to our own sense
of ourselves in a rigid way and fail to recognize ourselves as ever-
evolving beings, we inevitably do the same with our children. We
determine who they are, ego to ego, and respond to them in this stuck
fashion. This is why we keep on making mistake after mistake. Most of
us don’t even know who our children are right now, let alone allow their
moment-by-moment newness to emerge.
To break free of stereotyping, you would have to truly enter the
present and respond to your children with complete openness. You would
need to ask yourself, “Do I really know who my child is? Can I create the
space within myself to know my child each new day, one day to the
next?” To do this would require becoming silent in your children’s
presence, freeing yourself of all distractions, and attuning yourself to
them in a state of curiosity and delight.