“I can’t wait to grow up so I can go in the army. It’s got to be more
fun than living in this dump.” (Martyrdom)
“That’s 2.”
“All right, all right, all right.” (Jeff goes to start his homework.)
How Did She Do?
Mom did very well here. She tried a little negotiating, but when that didn’t work,
she didn’t get caught up in a useless argument or try to explain why her house
wasn’t the same as the military.Extreme Possessiveness
Haley is four years old. She has a playdate at her house with another
little girl, Alyssa, whom she has just met. Unfortunately, everything
Alyssa touches, Haley tries to take away from her. Alyssa is not
aggressive at all, but just stands there looking bewildered after a new
toy has been taken from her hands.
Mom sees the pattern. Alyssa picks up a small red car. Haley
moves in and grabs it.
Mom says, “Haley, that’s 1. You must let Alyssa play with
something.”
(Haley still doesn’t let go.)
“Haley, that’s 2.”
(The little girl releases her hold and lets Alyssa have the car.)
“That’s very nice of you, sweetheart.”
How Did She Do?
Good job. Briefly explain, count, and praise cooperation. For the little ones we
allow parents to provide a short explanation with the first count, for example, “No