Index 285Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS)
“basket” approach to, 89
creating atmosphere for, 86–89
failure of, 226–30
as model for use with all children, 275
questions about, 142–46
See also Plan B
commands, parental, 76–77
communication
in families, 205, 210–18, 221–26, 273
Plan B in school, 252
residential facilities, 228
community of learners, 258–62
concentration problems, 240
concerns
approval/disapproval of explosive
behavior, 145
bizarre/illogical, 197
clarification of, 197
cognitive flexibility skills, 197–98
CPS as model for use with all children,
275
defining the problem, 104–6
empathy, 99–101
factors that cause Plan B to go astray,
132–34
husbands as not doing Plan B, 154
identification and articulation of,
178–83, 275
invitation, 106–17
misconceptions about Plans, 119
not caring about others, 155–56
“owning,” 155–56
Plan A, 109, 110
Plan B in school, 259
reflection on outcomes of solutions, 187
siblings, 209
“splitting” of parents, 157
taking another’s concerns into account,
106–29, 259, 275
taking responsibility for actions, 145
training other skills with Plan B,
197–98
See also specific problem
consequences, 27, 73–83, 91, 143–45,
191, 266–69. See also reward/
punishments
consistency, 3, 73, 157, 218
control
as explanation for behavior, 144
See also authority; who’s boss
conventional wisdom, 10, 14–17, 21,
73–78, 83, 86, 96, 271
cooperation, and explanation for
behavior, 144
cotton candy problem, 122–25
counselors, and Plan B in school, 262–70
CPS. See Collaborative Problem Solving;
Plan B
cues, social, 44–46, 198–201
Danny (child), 58–63, 208–9, 245–46
Davis (child), 115–17
defining the problem
cognitive flexibility skills, 197–98
delayed response to frustrations, 165
difficult issues, 170–171
factors that cause Plan B to go astray,
133–34, 137–39
identifying and articulating concerns,
180
learning curves, 133–34, 137–39, 148,
165, 170–171
parking lot problem, 148
Plan A, 104
Plan B, 98, 104–6, 111–13, 121,
197–98
See also specific problem
delayed response, 152–54, 163–64, 195,
268
Depakote, 238–39
dependency, and Plan A, 147
depression, 5, 8, 36, 58, 65
Derrick (child), 191–93
desipramine (Norpramin), 236
developmental age, 167–68
dextroamphetamine sulfate (Dexedrine),
234