292 Indexobsessiveness, 5, 17, 38–41, 231, 237,
274
olanzapine (Zyprexa), 238
one-upmanship, 224–26
oppositional-defiant disorder, 3, 58, 81
organization and planning skills, 14, 25,
27–29, 90, 144, 167, 194–95, 253
Oscar (child), 211–12, 215
“over my dead body” statement, 138–39
overgeneralization, 214–15
own way, as explanation for behavior, 143
Pamelor, 236
pancake problem, 191–93
panic attacks, 17
parenting
agenda for, 87
conventional, 86
definition of good, 88
explanations for explosions, 86
ineffectiveness of conventional, 21
inept, 24, 86
parents
anxiety of, 215
“backing down” by, 77, 90
behavior of, 8, 31
blaming themselves, 75–76
characteristics of, of explosive
children, 8–9
“double standard” of, 206–8
empowerment of, 176
explosive child as embarrassment to, 4
frustrations of, 18–19, 81, 175–76
guilt feelings of, 9
help for, 176, 210, 220
inflexibility of, 43, 83
medications for, 220
Mitchell’s interactions with, 64, 67–71
need for consensus/consistency
between, 157, 218
Plan B in school, 251, 254–56, 262–70
as poor disciplinarians, 16–17
as pushovers, 87–88
reassurance for, 128, 215
as scared of child, 3–4
“splitting” of, 157
strains on, 3–5, 20, 62
taking behavior personally, 76
tensions and difficulties between, 59,
206, 218–20
See also families; parenting
parking lot problem, 147–49
paroxetine (Paxil), 237
pathways
case studies about, 50–71
cognitive flexibility skills, 24, 41–43
considering a range of possible
solutions, 183
CPS as model for use with all children,
275
definition of, 47
emotion regulation skills, 24, 35–41,
195–96
as excuses, 46
executive skills, 24–31
as explanations, 46
explosions as means of providing
information, 151
factors that cause Plan B to go astray,
142
identification of, 23–48, 53–54, 71,
168, 177, 251
importance of understanding, 46
language processing skills, 24, 31–35
meaning of term, 23–24
medications, 273
Plan A, 91
Plan B in school, 251–53
reward/punishment, 24
skills necessary for child to participate
in Plan B, 183
as skills that need to be taught, 272
social skills, 24, 44–47
training other skills with Plan B,
195–96
See also specific child or problem
Paxil, 237
perfectionism, 58, 215–17