Logistically speaking, you’ll be hard-pressed to find a preschool or
kindergarten that will accept an untrained child. Also, it almost goes
without saying, but do you want your child to learn to use the potty
through shaming by his peers? Four- and five-year-olds are already
starting to tease, taunt, and call names. What do you think is going
to happen to your child who’s still not trained? It won’t be pretty.
This child requires the big guns: a combination of all our tools.
When it does become time to train, he’s probably too big for the
little potty chair, so go right for the toilet. I would give this child the
benefit of the doubt that there could be a gap in learning, so go ahead
and proceed through the blocks as described earlier in the book, but
do so at a fast pace. Because in reality, this is probably just a behavior
issue. Still . . . it’s good to be sure.
You definitely want to ditch all the diapers at once. There just can
be no other option. You also want to utilize silence. Your child has you
wound tight right now. I’m sure you have tried everything. So now,
try nothing. Stop the dance around him. You may need to stay home
and keep your child home for a few days. There will most likely be a
full day of accidents, but again, there’s only so far a kid will go when
there’s no show around it. What’s the point of consistently peeing
yourself when Mom doesn’t react?
If your child is pooping on the floor, I want to emphasize that this
isn’t about potty training—it’s simply total disrespect. If this is
happening, as I discuss further in chapter 15 (“Younger Than Twenty
Months, Older Than Three Years”), you probably need more specific
help than I can offer via this book. I would honestly and gently say
you may need a family therapist. You have a bigger issue than just
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