Oh Crap! Potty Training

not your cup of tea, but it does work.
I also find that day cares’ attitudes depend upon what you tell
them, so be sure to focus on all the success. If you walk into day care
and tell them it’s been nothing but a struggle, that’s exactly what
they are going to see (and, I swear, partially create). If you go in
telling them it’s going great, they will feel the need to follow through
with that. If it’s going just okay at home, try not to say much of
anything.
If your child is having very little success at home—and I mean
very little—it’s okay. Some kids do take longer to potty train than
others do. In such a situation, I’d be sure to check in with the day
care, honestly. Tell them you’d love to give it a shot at day care
without a diaper to see if she’s just being obnoxious at home.
I know this is shocking, but our kids can be angels with other
people and save all their crappy behavior for us, the parents. Enlist
the day care’s help as a resource: “I know he’s so good for you. We’ve
done potty training this weekend and it’s going . . . eh. Would you be
willing to try today to see if he does well with you?” This usually gets
a favorable response, again thanks to some transparent ass kissing.
If your child is in day care for a large portion of the day, you might
want to consider daytime and nighttime potty training all together,
at the same time. It can look overwhelming, so read chapter 6,
“Nighttime Training” again and give it some thought. If day care
insists on a diaper, and your child is there eight hours a day, five days
a week, she’s going to have very little time left in the day without a
diaper on. Just something to consider.
So, in summary: find out the day care’s policy and/or how they
handle potty training, with details. If they are willing and able, go for