ways to go until he learns to tell us before it’s time, but I feel a huge
weight has been lifted off my shoulders. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!”What I love about this mom is that she knew her kid really well. And
while she took my general advice, she knew how to tweak it to make
it work for her son. She knew he was being stubborn and she took it
as a challenge—a good kind of challenge—and she was right! Once
over that barrier of behavior, she was met with consistent success.
As I said, this is a tricky chapter. I’m an overthinking,
overeducated, overparenter, as are most of my friends and clients. I
know I’ve probably stated some things that have pushed your buttons.
That’s okay. This is how it all makes sense in my head as a mom and
in my work as a potty trainer. If something doesn’t fully resonate,
think about it, run it through a sieve in your mind, keep what makes
sense to you, and ditch what doesn’t. Most of what I’ve addressed here
has to do with “parenting philosophy.” My personal parenting
technique is not to be tied to any one school of thought. Just as I
suggest you do, I filter through things and keep what makes sense and
ditch what doesn’t. If your philosophy is no longer working for you,
you can start to change things. I like to think of what I’m teaching in
terms of whether it will work for the long haul. I’m not just raising a
son; I’m raising a future man, partner, and member of the
community.