Oh Crap! Potty Training

other major milestone has been achieved in so short a time frame.
Put your big girl panties on and step up to the plate. This is your
child, and you have the magic. Adjust, get creative, think about what
might be going on. There’s a fair amount of thinking on your feet
about your particular child needed here. Here I go again saying the
same thing, but you are the expert on your kid.
The second reaction I get is massive resistance to the Reset—an
overwhelming sense of, “No way.” The parents feel that the Reset
would be a massive backslide. Many parents will point to the one pee
they got in the potty in the last three days. “She did it once! See?” To
which I say, “Listen. I truly believe in most instances that working
through the problems is the best way to potty train. But one pee on
the potty in three days in week two of potty training is not progress.
You are stuck. The only way to get unstuck is to change something.”
There’s a great Einstein quote: “The definition of insanity is doing
the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.”
Chances are, by the time you are considering a Reset, you have
tried many, many different things. For whatever reason, it’s not
working. We will never know why. But we do need to shake things up
a bit, and that’s what the Reset does. It shakes things up and calms
them down. While you are figuring out what might have gone wrong
or what you could change, and at the same time you are still potty
training and are getting nothing but pee on the floor, you are going to
go insane. Insane moms are wildly ineffective teachers.
As I mentioned in the beginning of the chapter, the Reset is good
for before or after starting this book. NOT BOTH. So let’s say, you
have a child who’s twenty-eight months. You’ve given potty training
a pretty good attempt, not using my book, and now . . . you don’t have