okay. We’re going to figure out how to do what’s best for our family.”
Alternately, “You know, I’m really nervous about moving. Are you?
And I’ve been so busy packing and getting ready, maybe I haven’t
been spending enough time with you. Let’s play something.”
Don’t bring up the regression during these conversations. Your
child will leap to the conclusion that his accidents are causing the
issue. Your goal is to talk about the big, pink elephant in the house,
not the symptoms you’re all experiencing.
Listen to Your Child!
This is an opportunity to let your child express her feelings. Once you
open the door, you’ll be amazed at what children will say. Just giving
big topics attention will resolve a lot of accidents and other forms of
acting out. Be careful, however, to not make promises you can’t keep.
Talk and ask questions, even if it feels like they are too young to
understand. The information’s getting in, you can be sure.
One final thought on regressions: do not put a diaper back on your
child! I know this is the billionth time I’ve said this, but it’s that
important. Once potty trained, even in the beginning stages, putting
a diaper on your child says one thing and one thing only: “I don’t
trust you. I’m telling you all day how I know you can do it and I have
confidence in you. But really, I don’t trust you.” This is extremely
damaging to the whole process. If you don’t trust your child, he will
never trust himself.
And for the billionth time as well: your energy, your vibe, your
nonverbal cues are leading the show here. Be sure and be steady.