_____Takes over responsibilities of the over/undereater.
_____Takes pivotal role in communications, excluding contact between the over/undereater and others.
_____Expresses anger inappropriately.
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____Makes violent attempts to control eating. Fights with the over/ undereater.
____Lets self go physically and mentally.
____Has extramarital affairs such as infidelity, workaholism, obsession with outside interests.
____Becomes rigid, possessive. Appears angry most of the time and careful and secretive about home life.
____Has related illness and drug abuse: ulcers, rashes, migraines, depression, obesity, tranquilizer use.
____Constantly loses temper.
____Becomes sick and tired of being sick and tired. 6
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Are you an adult child of an alcoholic? Following are fourteen questions you may find relevant to your life and
personality.
- Do I often feel isolated and afraid of people, especially authority figures?
- Have I observed myself to be an approval seeker, losing my own identity in the process?
- Do I feel overly frightened of angry people and personal criticism?
- Do I often feel I'm a victim in personal and career relationships?
5. Do I sometimes feel I have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, which makes it easier to be concerned with
others rather than myself? - Do I find it hard to look at my own faults and my own responsibility to myself?
- Do I get guilt feelings when I stand up for myself instead of giving in to others?
- Do I feel addicted to excitement?
- Do I confuse love with pity and tend to love people I can pity and rescue?
- Do I find it hard to feel or express feelings, including feelings such as joy or happiness?
- Do I find I judge myself harshly?
- Do I have a low sense of self-esteem?
- Do I often feel abandoned in the course of my relationships?
- Do I tend to be a reactor, instead of an actor?