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4. Dennis Wholey, The Courage to Change (Boston: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1984), 39.

Chapter 17

1. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1980), vol. 1, 77-78.


2. Ibid., 76.


3. John Powell, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? (Allen, TX: Argus Communications, 1969), 12.


4. Ibid., 8.


5. Jean Baer, How to Be an Assertive (Not Aggressive) Woman in Life, in Love, and on the Job (New York: New
   American Library, 1976).

Chapter 18

1. Al-Anon Family Group, Al-Anon's Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (New York: Al-Anon Family Group
   Headquarters, 1981), 131.


2. Jael Greenleaf, "Co-Alcoholic/Para-Alcoholic: Who's Who and What's the Difference?" in Co-Dependency, An
   Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL Health Communications, 1984), 15.


3. George E. Vaillant, The Natural History of Alcoholism (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1983).


4. Warren W. told this story in Minneapolis 23 August 1985, borrowing it from circuit speaker Clancy Imislund who
   operates the Midnight Mission and lives in Venice, CA.


5. Al-Anon Family Group, Al-Anon: Is It for You? (New York: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, 1983). Reprinted
   by permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.


6. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 49-52.

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Chapter 19

1. Paraphrased quote based on a greeting card and poster sold years ago; author is unknown.


2. Toby Rice Drews, Getting Them Sober (South Plainfield, NJ: Bridge Publishing, 1983), vol. 2, 52.


3. Penelope Russianoff, Why Do I Think I'm Nothing Without a Man? (New York: Bantam Books, 1982).


4. Kathy Capell-Sowder, "On Being Addicted to the Addict: Co-Dependent Relationships," in Co-Dependency, An
   Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL: Health Communications, 1984), 20-21.


5. Judi Hollis, Fat Is a Family Affair (San Francisco: Harper/Hazelden, 1986), 30-31.


6. Ideas discussed in this section are drawn from several articles in Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue (Hollywood, FL:
   Health Communications, 1984); Janet Geringer Woititz, "The Co-Dependent Spouse: What Happens to You When Your
   Husband Is an Alcoholic"; Gerald Shulman, "Sexuality and Recovery: Impact on the Recovering Couple"; Marilyn
   Mason, ''Bodies and Beings: Sexuality Issues During Recovery for the Dependent and Co-Dependent"; and Janet
   Geringer Woititz, "Co-Dependency: The Insidious Invader of Intimacy."

Chapter 20

1. Abraham H. Maslow, ed., Motivation and Personality, 2d ed. (New York: Harper & Row, 1970); Benjamin Wolman,
   ed., International Encyclopedia of Psychiatry, Psychology, Psychoanalysis, & Neurology (New York: Aesculapius
   Publishers, 1977), vol. 7, 32-33.