cover

competition, "protects supply."

Mutual integrity
preserved. One partner's needs suspended for

the other's; self-deprivation.

Willingness to risk
and be real. Search for perfect invulnerability

eliminates possible risks.

Room for exploration
of feelings in and of
relationship. Reassurance through repeated, ritualized activity.

Ability to enjoy being
alone.

Intoleranceunable to endure separations (even in

conflict); hang on even tighter. Undergo with-

drawalloss of appetite, rest- less, lethargic,

disoriented agony.

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BREAKUPS

Accept breakup without feeling a Feel inadequate, worthless; often

loss of own adequacy and self- one-sided decision.

worth.

Wants best for partner, though Violent ending-often hate other;

apart; can become friends. try to inflict pain; manipulation to

get other back.

ONE-SIDED ADDICTION

Denial, fantasy; overestimation of

other's commitment.

Seeks solutions outside self-

drugs, alcohol, new lover, change

of situation. 9

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