Born a Crime

way you will treat your woman.
Women like to be noticed. Come
and acknowledge me and let me
know that you see me. Don’t just
see me when you need something.”
These little lessons were always
about grown-up relationships,
funnily enough. She was so
preoccupied with teaching me how
to be a man that she never taught
me how to be a boy. How to talk to a
girl or pass a girl a note in class—
there was none of that. She only
told me about adult things. She
would even lecture me about sex.
As I was a kid, that would get very
awkward.
“Trevor, don’t forget: You’re
having sex with a woman in her
mind before you’re having sex with
her in her vagina.”