“No, no, no, no,” Abel’s mother
would protest. “Trevor must go
outside and play.”
I was made to run off and have
fun while my girl step-cousins had
to clean the house and help the
women cook. I was in heaven.
My mother loathed every
moment of being there. For Abel, a
firstborn son who was bringing
home his own firstborn son, this
trip was a huge deal. In the
homelands, the firstborn son
almost becomes the father/husband
by default because the dad is off
working in the city. The firstborn
son is the man of the house. He