married a woman like my mom in
the first place, as she was the
opposite of that in every way. If he
wanted a woman to bow to him,
there were plenty of girls back in
Tzaneen being raised solely for that
purpose. The way my mother
always explained it, the traditional
man wants a woman to be
subservient, but he never falls in
love with subservient women. He’s
attracted to independent women.
“He’s like an exotic bird collector,”
she said. “He only wants a woman
who is free because his dream is to
put her in a cage.”
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