658 THE PRINCIPLES OF SELF-CREATION
COMMENTARY
To hear how your voice sounds to others, record yourself in conversation. You will
likely be surprised by how different it sounds when you hear the recording played
back. If you don't like what you hear, and if you can be objective, study the tape to
see where you could make improvements. Note the tone, the pitch, and the rhythm
of your speech pattems. If you continue to work with the tape recorder and are still
not pleased with the changes you can effect on your own, you might consider
buying one of the audio programs available, or perhaps consulting a voice coach.
As important as the sound of your voice, if not more important, are the words
you use, and this is another way by which people will judge you. Unless you are
certain of the exact meaning of a word, don't use it. Opt instead for one that is
more familiar to you. There are many books that point out some of the common
mistakes people make in an attempt to sound more knowledgeable, and these
books can be invaluable. One of the best-known is The Elements of Style by
William Strunk Jr. and E. B. White, which offers information for both the spoken
and written word.
There are also audio courses that not only teach new vocabulary but also
allow you to hear the words used in context while at the same time hearing the
correct pronunciation. You will find many of these audio programs in the audio-
book section of most large bookstores.Let us now summarize the seven chief factors which enter into the
development of a Pleasing Personality:
t. Form the habit of interesting yourself in other people, and make
it your business to find their good qualities and speak of them in
terms of praise.- Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction, both in
your ordinary conversational tones and before public gatherings,
where you must use more volume. - Dress in a style that is becoming to you and appropriate to the
work in which you are engaged.