a slave to, your reactions to other
people, you get the double whammy
bonus of not only setting yourself up to
forgive them much more easily (because
you realize that it’s really about you, not
them), but you receive the great gift of
being enlightened to some of your own
not-so-special traits so you can grow
and learn from them (much more on all
this in Chapter 21: Millions of Mirrors).
In her brilliant book (I mean it, go get
it), Loving What Is: Four Questions
That Can Change Your Life, Byron
Katie says, “We don’t attach to people
or things, we attach to uninvestigated
concepts that we believe to be true in the
moment.” For example, in the scenario