- When I teach my clients to drop the “buts” and swap them for “and”
instead, I usually see a rapid transformaton. Within a few minutes,
this mindset shif starts to show in their expression. Hope replaces
desperaton as they realize that the way you frame a situaton
makes all the diference when coming up with solutons to a
challenge.
Another problem with using “but”
- “But” can also make people defensive. As soon as we hear that litle
word, most of us assume that critcism or bad news is on the
horizon.
- For instance, if you were to tell someone that you understand their
point but want to use another approach, they are likely to feel
threatened and critcized. However, telling them that you
understand their view and want to use another strategy will usually
elicit a more positve response.