LEARN COMMUNICATION.
Day 6: Watch Your Pronouns.
Unless you are recitng a monologue, you need to always consider the needs of your conversaton partner. Never bore them.
Break this rule at your peril. There’s no point in getng your views across if no one is going to be listening to them anyway.
Do you like to talk about yourself? You’re normal!
If you were to ask the average person whether they enjoy talking about themselves and listening to the sound of their own
voice, they would probably say “Me? No, of course not”. But let’s get real – most of us love talking about ourselves. In
moderaton, that’s perfectly okay. You are living your own life, so it’s natural that you fnd your own experiences fascinatng.
In additon, people who never reveal anything about themselves are not perceived as trustworthy. The best communicators
know how to balance self disclosure with respect for other people.Limit your “I”s
A fascinatng research study carried out in 1988 at the University of California found a link between narcissism and the number
of tmes a person used “I” during a fve-minute monologue. The subjects, 24 men and 24 women, were allowed to speak on a
topic of their own choosing for several minutes.
Their monologues were recorded, and the researchers then counted the number of tmes each person used frst person
pronouns. The partcipants who achieved higher scores on measures of narcissism tended to use “I” more ofen.
So, does this mean that “I” talk is a reliable indicator of narcissism? Not quite. Later research has shown that there actually is
no relatonship between the two.[16] What does this mean for those of us who want to make a good impression?
Here’s the important part – although psychologists disagree on whether “I “talk is really related to narcissism; the average
layperson picks up on it. In other words, a psychologist might realize that “I” talk doesn’t necessarily mean you are narcissistc,
but most other people will. In conclusion, it’s safe to say that avoiding excessive “I” talk will beneft you.