INTRODUCTION

thus transmute it. To disidentify from thinking is to be the
silent watcherof your thoughts andbehavior, especiallythe
repetitive patterns of your mindand the rolesplayed bythe
ego.
If you stop investingit with"selfness,"the mind loses
itscompulsive quality, whichbasicallyisthecompulsionto
judge,andsotoresistwhatis,whichcreatesconflict,drama,
and new pain. In fact, the moment that judgment stops
throughacceptanceofwhatis,youarefreeofthemind.You
have made room for love,for joy, for peace.First you stop
judging yourself; then you stop judging your partner. The
greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete
acceptanceofyourpartnerasheorsheis,withoutneedingto
judge or change them in any way. That immediately takes
you beyondego.All mind games andall addictiveclinging
are then over. There are no victims and no perpetrators
anymore,noaccuserandaccused.Thisisalso theendofall
codependency, of being drawn into somebody else's
unconsciouspatternandtherebyenablingittocontinue.You
will then either separate — in love — or move ever more
deeply into the Nowtogether — into Being. Canit be that
simple?Yes,itisthatsimple.
Loveisa state ofBeing.Your loveis not outside; it is
deep withinyou. Youcan never lose it,and it cannot leave
you.It is not dependent on some otherbody, some external
form.Inthestillnessofyourpresence,youcanfeelyourown
formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that
animatesyourphysicalform.Youcanthenfeelthesamelife
deepwithineveryotherhumanandeveryothercreature.You
look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the
realizationofoneness.Thisislove.
What is God? The eternal One Life underneath all the
formsoflife.Whatislove?TofeelthepresenceofthatOne
Lifedeep within yourself andwithin all creatures. To be it.
Therefore,allloveistheloveofGod.