Build Your New Habit Here
WHEN THIS HAPPENS...
Write out the moment, the person and perhaps the feelings that are
your trigger.
“And what else?” works so well because it keeps people generating
options and keeps you shut up. So the trigger here is the opposite
of that. It’s when someone has given you an idea, when you want
to give some advice, when you’re sure you know the answer and
are desperate to tell him or when he hasn’t yet said, “There is
nothing else!”
INSTEAD OF...
Write out the old habit you want to stop doing. Be specific.
The old habit will be largely about reverting to advice giving and
moving into solution mode sooner than you need to. It could be:
going with the first idea, or even the second idea or even the third
idea; telling people the brilliant idea you’ve got before they’ve
shared all their ideas; assuming you know the problem and/or the
solution; or taking control and wrapping up the conversation.
I WILL...
Describe your new habit.
It’s almost certainly something like, “I will ask them, ‘And what
else?’”