applicationsforbothmenandwomen:
ForMen:Rememberthatwhenawomangiveswithasmileonherfaceitdoesn'tnecessarilymeanthe
scoreisclosetoeven.
ForWomen:Rememberthatwhenyougivefreelytoaman,hegetsthemessagethescoreiseven.Ifyou
wanttomotivatehimtogivemore,thengentlyandgracefully stopgivingmore.Allow himtodolittle
thingsforyou.Encouragehimbyaskingforhissupportinlittlewaysandthenappreciatinghim.
3 .MartiansGiveWhenTheyAre Martianspridethemselvesinbeingself-sufficient.Theydon'taskfor
helpunlesstheyreallyneedit.OnMarsitisrudetoofferhelpunlessyouarefirstasked.
Quitetheopposite,Venusiansdon'twaittooffertheirsupport.Whentheylovesomeone,theygiveinany
waytheycan.Theydonotwaittobeasked,andthemoretheylovesomeonethemoretheygive.
Whenamandoesn'tofferhissupportawomanmistakenlyassumeshedoesn'tloveher.Shemayeven
testhislovebydefinitelynotaskingforhissupportandwaitingforhimtoofferit.Whenhedoesn'tofferto
help,sheresentshim.Shedoesnotunderstandthatheiswaitingtobeasked.
Aswehaveseen,keepingthescoreevenisimportanttoaman.Whenamanfeelshehasgivenmoreina
relationship,hewillinstinctivelybegintoaskformoresupport;henaturallyfeelsmoreentitledtoreceive
andstartsaskingformore.Ontheotherhand,whenhehasgivenlessinarelationship,thelastthingheis
goingtodoisaskformore.Instinctivelyhewillnotaskforsupportbutwilllookforwaysthathemight
givemoresupport.
Whenawoman doesn'taskforsupport,amanmistakenlyassumesthescoremustbeevenorthathe
mustbegivingmore.Hedoesnotknowthatsheiswaitingforhimtoofferhissupport.
Thisthirdinsighthaspracticalapplicationsforbothmenandwomen.
ForWomen:Rememberthatamanlooksforcuestellinghimwhenandhowtogivemore.Hewaitstobe
asked.Heseemstogetthenecessaryfeedbackonlywhensheisaskingformoreortellinghimheneedsto
givemore.Inaddition,whensheasks,heknowswhattogive.Manymendon'tknowwhattodo.Evenifa
mansensesheisgivingless,unlessshespecificallyasksforsupportinthelittleways,hemaydevoteeven
moreofhisenergytobigthingslikework,thinkingthatgreatersuccessormoremoneywillhelp.
ForMen:Rememberthatawomaninstinctivelydoesnotaskforsupportwhenshewantsit.Instead,she
expectsyoutoofferitifyouloveher.Practiceofferingtosupportherinlittleways.
4 .Venusians Say Yes Even When the Score Is Uneven Men don'trealizethatwhentheyaskfor
support,awomanwillsayyesevenifthescoreisuneven.Iftheycansupporttheirman,theywill.The
conceptofkeepingscoreisnotonhermind.Menhavetobecarefulnottoaskfortoomuch.Ifshefeels
sheisgivingmorethansheisgetting,afterawhileshewillresentthatyoudonotoffertosupporther