1 _ 10
I 6 .Whenheaskshertodosomethingandshesaysyesandstaysinagoodmood. 1 _ 10
I 7 .Whenhewantstomakeupafterafightandstartsdoinglittlethingsforherandshestartsappreciating
himagain. 10 _ 30
I 8 .Sheishappytoseehimwhenhegetshome. 10 _ 20
I 9. Shefeelsdisapprovingandinsteadofexpressing itshegoesin anotherroom andprivately centers
herselfandthencomesbackwithamorecenteredandlovingheart. 10 _ 20
20 .Onspecialoccasionssheoverlookshismistakesthatmightnormallyupsether. 20 _ 40
21 .Shereallyenjoyshavingsexwithhim. 10 _ 40
22 .Heforgetswhereheputhiskeysandshedoesn'tlookathimasthoughhewasirresponsible. 10 _ 20
23 .Sheistactfulorgracefulinexpressingherdislikeordisappointmentaboutarestaurantormoviewhen
onadate. 10 _ 20
24 .Shedoesn'tgiveadvicewhenheisdrivingorparkingthecarandthen appreciateshim forgetting
themthere. 10 _ 20
25 .Sheasksforhissupportratherthandwellingonwhathehasdonewrong. 10 _ 20
26 .Sheshareshernegativefeelingsinacenteredwaywithoutblaming,rejecting,orbeingdisapprovingof
him. 10 _ 40
When a Woman Can Score More Points
Eachoftheaboveexamplesrevealshowmenscorepointsdifferently fromwomen.Butawomanisnot
requitedtodoalloftheabove.Thislistrevealsthosetimeswhenheismostvulnerable.Ifshecanbe
supportiveingivinghimwhatheneedshewillbeverygenerousingivingpoints.
AsImentionedinchapter 7 ,awoman'sabilitytogiveloveatdifficulttimesfluctuateslikeawave.Whena
woman'sabilitytogiveloveisincreasing(duringtheupswingofherwave)isthetimewhenshecanscore
manybonuspoints.Sheshouldnotexpectherselftobeaslovingatothertimes.
Justasawoman'sabilitytogivelovefluctuates,aman'sneedforlovefluctuates.Ineachoftheabove
examples,thereisnofixedamountforhowmanypointsamangives.Insteadthereisanapproximate
range;whenhisneedforherloveisgreaterhetendstogivehermorepoints.
Forexample,ifhehasmadeamistakeandfeelsembarrassed,sorry,orashamed,thenheneedsherlove