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Themostfrequentlyexpressedcomplaintwomenhaveaboutmenisthatmendon'tlisten.Eitheraman
completelyignoresherwhenshespeakstohim,orhelistensforafewbeats,assesseswhatisbothering
her,andthenproudlyputsonhisMr.Fix_Itcapandoffersherasolutiontomakeherfeelbetter.Heis
confusedwhenshedoesn'tappreciatethisgestureoflove.Nomatterhowmanytimesshetellshimthat
he'snotlistening,hedoesn'tgetitandkeepsdoingthesamething.SSSShhhheeeewwwwaaaannnnttttsssseeeemmmmppppaaaatttthhhhyyyy((((ssssyyyymmmmppppaaaatttthhhhyyyy)))),,,,bbbbuuuutttt
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The mostfrequently expressed complaintmenhaveaboutwomen is thatwomen arealways tryingto
changethem.Whenawomanlovesamanshefeelsresponsibletoassisthimingrowingandtriestohelp
himimprovethewayhedoesthings.Sheformsahome_Improvementcommittee,andhebecomesher
primaryfocus.Nomatterhowmuchheresistsherhelp,shepersists_waitingforanyopportunitytohelp
himortellhimwhattodo.SSSShhhheeeetttthhhhiiiinnnnkkkksssssssshhhheeee''''ssssnnnnuuuurrrrttttuuuurrrriiiinnnngggghhhhiiiimmmm,,,,wwwwhhhhiiiilllleeeehhhheeeeffffeeeeeeeellllsssshhhheeee''''ssssbbbbeeeeiiiinnnnggggccccoooonnnnttttrrrroooolllllllleeeedddd....
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Thesetwoproblemscanfinallybesolvedbyfirstunderstandingwhymenoffersolutionsandwhywomen
seektoimprove.Let'spretendtogobackintime,wherebyobservinglifeonMarsandVenus__-before
theplanetsdiscoveredoneanotherorcametoEarth--wecangainsomeinsightsintomenandwomen.

LIFEONMARS..............................................................................................................................

Martiansvaluepower,competency,efficiency,andachievement.Theyarealwaysdoingthingstoprove
themselvesanddeveloptheirpowerandskills.Theirsenseofselfisdefinedthroughtheirabilitytoachieve
results.Theyexperiencefulfillmentprimarilythroughsuccessandaccomplishment.

EverythingonMarsisareflectionofthesevalues.Eventheirdressisdesignedtoreflecttheirskillsand
competence.Policeofficers,soldiers,businessmen,scientists,cabdrivers,technicians,andchefsallwear
uniformsoratleasthatstoreflecttheircompetenceandpower.

Theydon'treadmagazineslikePsychologyToday,Self,orPeople.Theyaremoreconcernedwithoutdoor
activities, likehuntfishing,andracingcars. They areinterestedin the news, weather, andsportsand
couldn'tcarelessaboutromancenovelsandself_helpbooks.