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Ithankmywife,Bonnie,forsharingthejourneyofdevelopingthisbookwithme.Ithankherforallowing
metoshareourstoriesandespecially forexpandingmyunderstanding andabilitytohonorthefemale
pointofview.

Ithankourthreedaughters,Shannon,Julie,andLauren,fortheircontinuedloveandappreciation.The
challengeofbeingaparenthasallowedmetounderstandthestrugglesmyparentshadandlovethem
evenmore.Beingafatherhasespeciallyassistedmeinunderstandingandlovingmyfather.

Ithankmyfatherandmotherfortheirlovingeffortstoraiseafamilyofsevenchildren.Ithankmyoldest
brother,David,forunderstanding my feelingsand admiringmy words.I thank mybrotherWilliarn for
motivating me to higher achievements. I thank my brother Robert for all the long and interesting
conversationswehaduntildawnandforhisbrilliantideas,fromwhichIalwaysbenefit.Ithankmybrother
Tom for his encouragement and positive spirit. I thank my sister Virginia for believing in me and
appreciatingmyseminars.IthankmydeceasedyoungerbrotherJimmyforhisloveandadmiration,which
continuetosupportmethroughmydifficulttimes.

Ithankmy agentPattiBreitman,whosehelp,brilliantcreativity,andenthusiasm haveguidedthisbook
fromitsconceptiontoitscompletion.IthankCaroleBidnickforherinspiredsupportatthebeginningof
thisproject.IthankSusanMoldowandNancyPeskefortheirexpertfeedbackandadvice.Ithankthestaff
atHarperCollinsfortheircontinuedresponsivenesstomyneeds.

I thank all the thousands who participated in my relationship serninars, shared their stories, and
encouragedmetowritethisbook.Theirpositiveandlovingfeedbackhassupportedmeindevelopingthis
simplepresentationofsuchacomplexsubject.

Ithankmyclientswhohavesharedtheirstrugglessointimatelyandtrustedmyassistanceintheirjourney.

Ithank SteveMartineauforhisskillfulwisdomandinfluence,whichcanbefoundsprinkledthroughthis
book.

I thank my different promoters, who have put their hearts and souls into producing the john Gray
RelationshipSeminarswherethismaterialwastried,tested,anddeveloped:ElleyandIanCoreninSanta
Cruz; DebraMudd, Gary andHelenFrancellin Honolulu;BillandJudy Elbringin San Francisco;David
Obstfeld and Fred Kliner in Washington, D.C.;Elizabeth Kling in Baltimore; Clark andDottieBartellin
Seattle;MichaelNajarianinPhoenix;GloriaManchesterinL.A.;SandeeMacinHouston;EarleneCarrilloin