Let'sexploreingreaterdetailafewexamples.Jimcommonly usesreadingthenewspapertoforgethis
problems.Whenhereadsthepaperheisnolongerbeingconfrontedwiththeproblemsofhisday.With
the 5 percentofhismindthatisnotfocusedonhisworkproblems,hebeginsformingopinionsandfinding
solutionsfortheworld'sproblems.Graduallyhismindbecomesincreasinglyinvolvedwiththeproblemsin
thenewsandheforgetshisown.Inthiswayhemakesthetransitionfrombeingfocusedonhisproblems
atwork to focusingon themanyproblemsoftheworld(forwhichhe isnotdirectly responsible. This
processreleaseshismindfromthegrippingproblemsofworksohecanfocusonhiswifeandfamilyagain.
Tomwatchesafootballgametoreleasehisstressandunwind.Hereleaseshismindfromtryingtosolve
hisownproblemsbysolvingtheproblemsofhisfavoriteteam.Throughwatchingsportshecanvicariously
feelhehassolvedaproblemwitheachplay.Whenhisteamscorespointsorwins,heenjoysthefeelingof
success.Ifhisteamloses,hesufferstheirlossashisown.Ineithercase,however,hismindisreleased
fromthegripofhisrealproblems.
ForTomandmany mentheinevitablereleaseoftension thatoccursatthecompletionofanysporting
event,newsevent,ormovieprovidesareleasefromthetensionhefeelsinhislife.
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Whenamanisstuckinhiscave,heispowerlesstogivehispartnerthequalityattentionshedeserves.Itis
hardforhertobeacceptingofhimatthesetimesbecauseshedoesn'tknowhowstressedheis.Ifhe
weretocomehomeandtalkaboutallhisproblems,thenshecouldbemorecompassionate.Insteadhe
doesn'ttalkabouthisproblems,andshefeelsheisignoringher.Shecantellheisupsetbutmistakenly
assumeshedoesn'tcareaboutherbecauseheisn'ttalkingtoher.
WomengenerallydonotunderstandhowMartianscopewithstress.Theyexpectmentoopenupandtalk
aboutalltheirproblemsthewayVenusiansdo.Whenamanisstuckinhiscave,awomanresentshisnot
beingmoreopen.Shefeelshurtwhenheturnsonthenewsorgoesoutsidetoplaysomebasketballand
ignoresher.
Toexpectamanwhoisinhiscaveinstantlytobecomeopen,responsive,andlovingisasunrealisticas
expectingawomanwhoisupsetimmediatelytocalmdownandmakecompletesense.Itisamistaketo
expectamantoalwaysbeintouchwithhislovingfeelingsjustasitisamistaketoexpectawoman's
feelingstoalwaysberationalandlogical.
WhenMartiansgototheircavesthey tendtoforgetthattheirfriendsmaybehavingproblemstoo.An
instincttakesoverthatsaysbeforeyoucantakecareofanybodyelse,youmustfirsttakecareofyourself.
Whenawomanseesamanreactinthisway,shegenerallyresistsitandresentstheman.
Shemayaskforhissupportinademandingtone,asifshehastofightforherrightswiththisuncaring