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Centuries before the Martians and Venusians got together they had been quite happy living in their
separate worlds. Then one day everything changed. The Martians and Venusians on their respective
planetssuddenlybecamedepressed.Itwasthisdepression,however,thatmotivatedthemeventuallyto
cometogether.

Understandingthesecretsoftheirtransformationhelpsustoday torecognizehowmenandwomenare
motivatedindifferentways.Withthisnewawarenessyouwillbebetterequippedtosupportyourpartner
aswellasgetthesupportyouneedatdifficultandstressfultimes.Let'sgobackintimeandpretendto
witnesswhathappened.

WhentheMartiansbecamedepressed,everyoneontheplanetleftthecitiesandwenttotheircavesfora
longtime.Theywerestuckandcouldn'tcomeout,untilonedaywhenaMartianhap-penedtoglimpsethe
beautifulVenusiansthroughhistelescope.Ashequicklysharedhistelescope,thesightofthesebeautiful
beingsinspiredtheMartians,andtheirdepressionmiraculouslylifted.SSSSuuuuddddddddeeeennnnllllyyyytttthhhheeeeyyyyffffeeeellllttttnnnneeeeeeeeddddeeeedddd....They
cameoutoftheircavesandbeganbuddingafleetofspaceshipstoflytoVenus.

WhentheVenusiansbecame depressed, to feelbetter theyformedcircles andbegan talking withone
anotherabouttheirprob-lems.Butthisdidn'tseemtorelievethedepression.Theystayeddepressedfora
long time until through their intuition they expe-rienced a vision. Strong and wondrous beings (the
Martians)wouldbe comingacrosstheuniversetolove, serve, andsupportthem.SSSSuuuuddddddddeeeennnnllllyyyytttthhhheeeeyyyyffffeeeelllltttt
cccchhhheeeerrrriiiisssshhhheeeedddd....Astheysharedtheirvisiontheirdepres-sionlifted,andtheyhappilybeganpreparingforthe
arrivaloftheMartians.

These secretsof motivation arestillapplicable. Men aremoti-vated andempowered when they feel
needed. When aman does notfeelneededina relationship, hegradually becomespassiveand less
energized;witheachpassingdayhehaslesstogivetherelationship.Ontheotherhand,whenhefeels
trustedtodohisbesttofulfillherneedsandappreciatedforhisefforts,heisempoweredandhasmoreto
give.

LiketheVenusians,womenaremotivatedandempoweredwhen theyfeelcherished.Whenawoman
doesnotfeelcherishedinarelationshipshegraduallybecomescompulsivelyresponsibleandexhausted
fromgivingtoomuch.Ontheotherhandwhenshefeelscaredforandrespected,sheisfulfilledandhas
moretogiveaswell.