"I'mOK"translatedintoVenusianmeans"IamOK,Icandealwithmyupset.Idon'tneedanyhelp,thank
you."
Withoutthistranslation,whenhesays"IamM'shemayhear"IamnotupsetbecauseIdonotcare"or
shemayhear_Iamnotwillingtosharewithyoumyupsetfeelings.Idonottrustyoutobethereforme."
"I’mfine"translatedintoVenusianmeans"IamfinebecauseIamsuccessfullydealingwithmyupsetor
problem.Idon'tneedanyhelp.IfIdoIwillask."
Withoutthistranslation,whenhesays"Iamfine"shemayhear"Idon'tcareaboutwhathashappened.
Thisproblemisnotimportanttome.Evenifitupsetsyou,Idon'tcare."
"It'snothing"translatedintoVenusianmeans"NothingisbotheringmethatIcannothandlealone.Please
don'taskanymorequestionsaboutit."
Withoutthistranslation, whenhesays "Nothingisbothering me"she mayhear"Idon'tknowwhatis
botheringme.Ineedyoutoaskmequestionstoassistmeindiscoveringwhatishappening."Atthispoint
sheproceedstoangerhimbyaskingquestionswhenhereallywantstobeleftalone.
"It'sallright"translatedintoVenusianmeans'Thisisaproblembutyouarenottoblame.Icanresolvethis
withinmyselfifyoudon'tinterruptmyprocessbyaskingmorequestionsorofferingsuggestions.Justact
likeitdidn'thappenandIcanprocessitwithinmyselfmoreeffectively."
Withoutthistranslation,whenhesays"It'sallright"shemayhear"Thisisthewayitissupposedtobe.
Nothingneedstobechanged.YoucanabusemeandIcanabuseyou"orshehears"It'sallrightthistime,
butrememberitisyourfault.Youcandothisoncebutdon'tdoitagainorelse."
"It'snobigdeal"translatedintoVenusianmeans"ItisnobigdealbecauseIcanmakethingsworkagain.
Pleasedon'tdwellonthisproblemortalkmoreaboutit.Thatmakesmemoreupset.Iacceptresponsibility
forsolvingthisproblem.Itmakesmehappytosolveit."
Withoutthistranslation,whenhesays"It'snobigdeal"shemayhear"Youaremakingabigdealoutof
nothing.Whatconcernsyouisnotimportant.Don'toverreact."
"It'snoproblem"translatedintoVenusianmeans"Ihavenoproblemdoingthisorsolvingthisproblem.It
ismypleasuretoofferthisgifttoyou."
Withoutthistranslation,whenhesays"It'snoproblem"shemayhear'Thisisnotaproblem.Whyareyou
makingitaproblemoraskingforhelp?"Shethenmistakenlyexplainstohimwhyitisaproblem.
UsingthisMartian/Venusian PhraseDictionary canassistwomeninunderstandingwhatmenreally
meanwhentheyabbreviatewhattheyaresaying.Sometimeswhatheisreallysayingistheoppositeof
whatshehears.