wealth,status,privilege,orcircumstances,awomanneedspermissiontobeupsetandallowherwaveto
crash.
Chriswasencouragedwhenherealizedhecouldmakehiswifehappy.Herememberedhehadvalidated
hiswife'sfeelingswhentheywerepoor,andhecoulddoitagaineveniftheywererich.Insteadoffeeling
hopeless, herealized hedidknowhow to supporther. Hehadjust gottensidetracked by thinking his
moneyshouldmakeherhappywhenreallyhiscaringandunderstandingofherhadbeenthesourceofher
contentment.
FEELINGSAREIMPORTANT...........................................................................................................
Ifawomanisnot supported in beingunhappy sometimes thenshe cannevertruly be happy. To be
genuinelyhappyrequiresdippingdownintothewedtorelease,heal,andpurifytheemotions.Thisisa
naturalandhealthyprocess.
Ifwearetofeelthepositivefeelingsoflove,happiness,trust,andgratitude,weperiodicallyalsohaveto
feelanger,sadness,fear,andsorrow.Whenawomangoesdownintoherwelliswhenshecanhealthese
negativeemotions.
Menalsoneedtoprocesstheirnegativefeelingssothattheycanthenexperiencetheirpositivefeelings.
Whenamangoesintohiscaveisatimewhenhesilently feelsandprocesseshisnegativefeelings.In
chapter 11 wewillexploreatechniqueforreleasingnegativefeelingsthatworksequallywellforwomen
andmen.
Whenawomanisontheupswingshecanbefulfilledwithwhatshehas.Butonthedownswingshethen
will become aware of what she is missing. When she is feeling good she is capable of seeing and
respondingtothegoodthingsinherlife.Butwhensheiscrashing,herlovingvisionbecomescloudy,and
shereactsmoretowhatismissinginherlife.
Justasaglassofwatercanbeviewedashalffullorhalfempty,whenawomanisonherwayupshesees
thefullnessofherlife.Onthewaydownsheseestheemptiness.Whateveremptinesssheoverlookson
thewayupcomesmoreintofocuswhensheisonherwaydownintoherwell.
Withoutlearningabouthowwomenarelikewavesmencannotunderstandorsupporttheirwives.They
areconfusedwhenthingsgetalotbetterontheoutsidebutworseintherelationship.Byremembering
thisdifferenceamanholdsthekeytogivinghispartnertheloveshedeserveswhensheneedsitthemost.