104 PowerPhrases in Action
it will increase your chances of getting what you want, admit it
to the person you are talking to. It’s not only healthy—it gets
results.
PowerPhrases to Express What You Feel
Say What You Mean
Exactly what do you REALLY feel? What do you really mean?
Look deeply and communicate the whole story. Are you really
angry because your daughter was late coming home? Or are you
frightened for her? Or are you angry, frightened, relieved, and
frustrated all at once? If so, don’t say,
I’m mad at you.when it would include more of your meaning to say,
I’m so glad you’re safe. I was terrified for you. I’m angry
with you for scaring me like this and frustrated that this
is happening again.Are you really just upset that your coworker didn’t mention
your name when she told the boss about your idea? Or are you
feeling betrayed? Perhaps you are upset, shocked, and feeling
betrayed all at once. Don’t say,
I’m upset that you didn’t mention my name.when what you really mean is
It shocked me that you didn’t mention my name and I
feel betrayed.