192 PowerPhrases in Action
dignity. It does not matter how me-against-you she tries to make
it. When you see the situation as the two of you against a prob-
lem—when you refuse to view her as your adversary—when
you preserve her dignity no matter how vehemently she attacks
yours—you preserve your own dignity as well and you get
RESULTS.
Because a PowerPhrase is as strong as it needs to be and no
stronger, you will want to start gently and if that isn’t getting
results, use stronger words.
I prefer.is not as strong as
I want.I want is not as strong as
I need.When you need to speak more strongly yet, add consequences.
Say,
I will.Who is your nemesis? Everyone has one! Polish off your Power-
Phrases and address the issue.