Your Need To Love
Satisfaction in life increases spontaneously when we devote time to meeting our spiritual needs, apart
from developing our physical and mental aspects. The human self cries out to be recognized as a spiritual
being whose innate nature is unconditional happiness. A truly happy person finds deep inner satisfaction
in sharing whatever he likes about himself with others; this is called love. Love is the most basic
characteristic of a human being. Love is the life force that makes the heart beat, the cells thrive and the
spirit soar. This is the meaning of living a spiritual life, a life filled with spirit and meaning. However, at
times love becomes overshadowed or remains unexpressed. If it is unable to flow inside and outside the
body, it causes deep sadness and frustration in the heart center.
Having a doctor identify a few risks of disease and "treating them away" does nothing for a person's
profound inner need to open his heart to others and to himself. Such an approach is futile because it
ignores the fact that human feelings are far more powerful than any physical effect could ever be. If
unhappiness continues to prevail in a patient's life, no amount of vitamin C or E will stop free radicals
from creating havoc in the body.
The continual emphasis on the risk factors for disease today may divert people's attention from the
real issues in life. The fact that happiness rating and job satisfaction are the leading causes of heart disease
is hardly being publicized because there doesn't seem to be a magic formula to deal with them. The
pharmaceutical industry possesses no drugs that can make people happy; all it can offer is drugs that deal
with the physical symptoms of the disease. If you are troubled with heart disease, you may need to ask
yourself a few basic questions, such as these:
Am I living a lifestyle that is detrimental to my health, and if yes, why would I do that? Do I feel that
no one really likes or loves me? Am I afraid of being rejected by my partner? Is it up to me or others to
see myself as a victim of some sort? Do I believe that I have a deeper purpose in my life but cannot find
it? Am I feeling frustrated because I am not able to get out of life what I really want? And most
importantly, am I afraid to love, out of fear of being hurt? Loving others who don't know how to love
themselves heals the heart. Helping those who cry out for help opens and relaxes your heart. This prevents
heart disease. You can always find someone who needs your help. When you make a difference in
someone else's life, you will automatically feel loved, too.
What A Loving Spouse Can Do
Major research on male heart attack patients has shown that the men's feeling of being loved by their
wives was the most crucial element that determined whether they survived an attack or not. Heart attacks
often turn into a revelation for estranged couples who have forgotten how to love and care about each
other. The sudden closeness which couples often experience after one partner suffers a heart attack can
serve as an incentive for many of the patients to continue wanting to live, and the chances are that they
will live.
Surveys of male heart attack victims revealed that most men felt lonely or misunderstood before their
attack. Minor attacks led to death only in those men who felt that their wives no longer loved them. If a
relationship was brought back to "life" as a result of the attack, then even a massive heart attack could not
take the person's life. Most men are quite sensitive at heart, even though they may not necessarily admit it.
They generally tend to put on a brave face and suffer silently when they have "heartache." Most men tend
to consider it a sign of weakness to shed tears, especially if it is in front of a woman. Yet the male's
tendency to repress feelings of weakness makes him a likely candidate for heart disease. A heart attack
can reveal his deep vulnerability and yearning for support and comfort. If he allows his partner to see this