and miss the fact that the crazymaker has used hearsay to set
you off kilter emotionally.
Crazymakers are expert blamers. Nothing that goes wrong
is ever their fault, and to hear them tell it, the fault is usually
yours. “If you hadn’t cashed that child-support check it
would never have bounced,” one crazymaking ex-husband
told his struggling-for-serenity former spouse.
Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you
miss by going too fast—you also miss the sense of
where you are going and why.
EDDIE CANTORCrazymakers create dramas—but seldom where they
belong. Crazymakers are often blocked creatives
themselves. Afraid to effectively tap their own creativity,
they are loath to allow that same creativity in others. It
makes them jealous. It makes them threatened. It makes
them dramatic—at your expense. Devoted to their own
agendas, crazymakers impose these agendas on others. In
dealing with a crazymaker, you are dealing always with the
famous issue of figure and ground. In other words, whatever
matters to you becomes trivialized into mere backdrop for
the crazymaker’s personal plight. “Do you think he/she
loves me?” they call you to ask when you are trying to pass