Chapter 18 :
Dating With Care and Empathy
"I don't conquer, I submit."- Giacomo Casanova
Personal growth is about becoming the best person you can possibly
be, but change doesn’t occur in a vacuum. There are people around you,
people with feelings, opinions, thoughts, and goals of their own.
Achieving your goals does not mean that you can be a self-serving shark,
cold and mindless of no one but yourself. It means you follow your
dreams and improve yourself to become the man you strive to be.
At the same time, while taking other people’s opinions into account,
no one should be ashamed of any efforts to improve, grow, and change
their lives. No one should prevent you from making you dream a reality.
If you want to learn how to attract your preferred romantic or sexual
partners, you must start doing things that are attractive to them. These
include being more interesting, confident, humorous, self-aware,
emphatic, authentic, positive, well-rounded, and spiritual. Ultimately, to
form relationships with others more successfully, you have to become a
better person.
Though the principles of attraction and seduction are inherently non-
sexual, they can be used romantically. After years of teaching this
material I’ve found it’s necessary to share this – many people are
unaware of what exactly consent is. For this reason, I want to include this
very important section: