"the couch opened up, let's sit down and I'll show you that psychology
exercise I mentioned before."
IMPORTANT: For this technique, the seed will happen after we've
built attraction, when we're showing her interest (the connect phase).
Step 2. How to Qualify ProperlyFor starters, look for three non-physical traits that you actually like
about the girl you're interested in. After you've built attraction through
Identity Storytelling, Demonstrations of Value, and Disqualification and
have received the appropriate amount of Indicators of Interest – it's time
to let her know that you appreciate these three qualities. This requires:
- That you name the quality. Example: "You know, I really
appreciate how adventurous you are." - That you tell them why the quality is important to
you personally. Example: "I try to live life like I'm in a
storybook – taking chances and doing the unexpected.
Meeting someone with a similar quality is a breath of fresh
air." - You end the qualifier with a specific ending. Example: "I
really appreciate that. Thanks for being awesome."
Tips: These are not done in rapid-fire succession. They are done
throughout the seduction, but more regularly before the first kiss and
always after you've built some attraction. In addition to non-physical
qualities, you can also hint at something they aspire to be, or aspire to
obtain in the future, or in some sort of untapped potential you see in
them. Sometimes you can choose a physical quality, but it has to be
unique and be supported by a very specific identity story.
Step 3. The ABC of the "First Kiss"