IMPORTANT: If you try to rush things, you'll make her
uncomfortable, and lose her trust. Have patience, because guys who are
impatient look horny and desperate.
That said, even if she isn't making advances, she still might be
interested. Everyone is different, and will show romantic interest in
different ways. As you continue your practice, you will find that some
women will be more aggressive, and others will be passive. It's up to you
to see what's going on by developing a well-calibrated social awareness.
You can check her comfort levels with slowly escalating techniques.
Initially they are minor and insignificant things, each becoming
increasingly substantial and involved as trust and comfort is built. With
any comfort escalation technique, you're looking for one of three
outcomes:
- Will she do more for me than she would before?
- Will she want me do more with her than before?
- Am I making her uncomfortable? If so, stop what you're doing
and take a step back romantically. If you persist in making her
uncomfortable, you'll likely lose her trust and the possibility of a
romantic connection.
Here are some examples of verbal comfort escalation checks:"Do you like Thai Food? I can't hang out with people who aren't
adventurous with food and don't try new things in life."
Did she change her opinion or makes an excuse to win you over?
If yes, great, you're doing well.
If no, keep working on building attraction.